Among Friends

“Gina Moffa has written the book so many people have needed but could never find. With warmth, clinical wisdom, and extraordinary compassion, she shines a light on the often-unrecognized grief of losing a friendship. Thoughtful, healing, and profoundly reassuring, this book will forever change the way we understand one of life’s most common and least acknowledged heartbreaks.”

— Claire Bidwell Smith, author of Conscious Grieving 

“What Happened to Our Friendship? gives language to a loss so many don’t know how to name. Gina Moffa writes with the warmth of a friend and the precision of a therapist, and this book will change how you think about every friendship that’s ever shaped you.”

— Liz Moody, best selling author of 100 Ways to Change Your Life, and host of the Liz Moody Podcast

“In What Happened to Our Friendship, Gina Moffa reminds us that friendship breakups aren't just about endings, they're invitations to better understand ourselves, each other, and what it means to move forward in our lives and in our relationships with compassion. As someone who believes that better conversations create stronger communities and a more connected world, I found this book to be an incredibly thoughtful guide to one of the most overlooked forms of heartbreak. These pages felt like an embrace from a dear friend and wise, warm therapist who just gets it, and a communal exhale in knowing that the shame and silence we often carry around this topic are anything but isolating.“

— Sophie Beren, Founder, The Conversationalist

 “I’ve never heard anyone speak about friendship breakups with the nuance and depth Gina brings to the conversation. She has a rare gift for addressing the root causes of friendship dissolution that others so often overlook, showing how our patterns, our sense of identity, and our own mental health all converge to shape the way we experience these losses, in ways that are rarely named or understood. This book gave me an entirely new way to understand the friendships I’ve lost, and with it, real clarity and hope moving forward. Gina has a beautiful, unique ability to invite the thinker to feel and the feeler to think.”

— Danielle Bayard Jackson, Friendship expert, author, Fighting for Our Friendships 

"I've been waiting for someone to write a book about friendship loss. Gina Moffa takes one of life's most painful, unspoken experiences and makes you feel deeply seen, understood, and far less lonely. What Happened to Our Friendship? feels like sitting across from your most compassionate friend and a wise therapist all at once. It’s the kind of book that stays with you long after the last page. I'm so grateful it found me."

— Manon Mathews, actress and comedian

“Gina Moffa's What Happened to Our Friendship? shines a light on the invisible heartbreak of lost friendships. By taking readers through the grief and confusion that accompany the end of a friendship, Moffa serves as a gentle guide. Not only does Moffa offer language, context, description, and validation of the vital role friendship plays in our lives, but also hope. Moffa empowers readers to look at themselves and their history so that they can shape their ongoing friendships in healthy, rewarding ways. This wise, insightful book will be a treasure to anyone who's ever grieved a friendship.”

— Christie Tate, NY Times best selling author of GROUP: How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life and B.F.F.: A Memoir of Friendship Lost & Found

“If you've ever replayed a friendship's final moments at 3  a.m., wondering what you could have done differently — this book is for you. Gina Moffa understands that friendship loss is real loss, and she doesn't rush you through the grief or offer empty platitudes. Instead, she gives you the tools to process the rupture honestly and move forward with your dignity intact. What Happened to Our Friendship? is equal parts therapy and heart-to-heart with your smartest friend (who has the best snacks). Start here. It will change how you see your relationships, and yourself.”

— Anna Goldfarb, author, Modern Friendship 

“I needed this book more than I expected. I have spent my career putting strangers at long tables and watching them turn into each other's people. It is the thing I'm known for, and I'm good at it. And I have still lost friends I can't get through a sentence about. What I had instead was the wellness industry's version - a reason, a season, a lifetime, you outgrew her, the universe was making room - which is a very elegant way of telling someone their heartbreak doesn't count. What Happened to Our Friendship finally gave me language for it. Gina Moffa treats losing a friend like the real loss it is, and if you've lost one and never got to mourn it, this is the book that says it counted.”

— Michelle Garside, author of (NOT) Awakened

"Grounded in research and hard-won honesty, therapist Gina Moffa helps readers understand why friendships end, how to grieve what has been lost, and learn to rebuild with a greater sense of self-awareness. If the pain of losing a friend clears the ground, this warm guide shows how to grow the kind of friendships that fit who we are now.” 

— Jennifer Wallace, NYT bestselling author of Mattering and Never Enough

"Gina Moffa is that friend who tells you the truth even when it’s hard to hear. The therapist you wish you had, wise and gentle. Someone who never talks down to you, never lets you off easy. And, while you may not understand what kind of sorcery you’re witnessing, you can’t deny the power of What Happened to Our Friendship? The book’s title may be a question. This is not: get this book."

— Jennifer Pastiloff, NYT best-selling author of On Being Human and Proof of Life